Wednesday, April 05, 2006

The Truth About Cats and Dogs

We all know women who say that they're more comfortable around men than they are around other women. (I ought to; I dated plenty.)

I'm the other side of that coin. All my life, I've been more comfortable around women than I have been around other men. Don't get me wrong. I like stereotypically "guy" things: I like gadgets, power tools, my truck, hard rock, new hip-hop, blowing stuff up and setting things on fire.

But I have more friends of the fairer sex than I have friends of my own gender.

So--and I know this is a big boast to make--I understand women about as well as a man can understand a woman. I'm a little tired at the moment, and I know this begs a longer post, but this is what I understand: Women are, deep down, daddy's girls. The reason most (if not a majority) of women like "jerks" is because jerks at least have self-confidence. (It's just the controlling nature that becomes tiresome.) Deep down, all women are fairly self-conscious, to different degrees. Deep down, you all believe in true love and "soulmates." There are other things I've observed, but those are the "biggies," the ones that come to mind right away.

But here's my question, ladies--and you have to remember that this blog is a unique opportunity for me to discuss this since I am the lone male among all you lovely women: What do men not know about women that you all wish we did?

Sorry I've been out of touch. And just let me say that I love the new graphic at the top. Thank you for that!


Blogger goldennib said...

You do seem to be very insightful Andy, so I'm not sure what secrets I hold on the female gender that you don't already know.

And I'm not sure I'd be considered typical. I'd rather be alone, than miserable. I don't need to have a man in my life, but I choose to have my husband there. I rather my husband (or anyone for that matter) is honest with me rather than be placating. I find mind and emotional ganes boring. And any wishy washy person is annoying. I want to know what people really think and feel. I can take it.

Oh, and there really is such a thing as PMS but you (men) are never allowed to mention it as a force in female behavior.

11:06 AM  
Blogger Mary said...

Andy, my Patrick seems to be a lot like you. I think the two of you would get along. Patrick isn't the typical guy in many senses but he is in others. He likes to mow the lawn and go fishing and be outside and go camping and stuff. He was in the military. But, he isn't really big on sports and cars and that sort of thing. He also isn't really big into sitting around and talking about women like they are meat either. He likes reading and watching movies and following pop culture & hollywood.

I'm so lucky because Patrick totally gets me and there isn't any one "woman thing" he doesn't get about me. I do know that he is constantly telling me that I'm "not like other girls".

From past experiences, one thing I wish the male gender would learn is that sometimes the best woman in the world is that one that is right there in front of you while you were busy looking at the hot blond.

4:16 PM  
Blogger Dear Lovey Heart said...

guys need to be aware that things they say can be hurtful, and that being supportive doesn't mean saying "this is your deal not mine" ok so maybe just one guy

i have a problem with being overly sensitive and i have found that men don't seem to understand that very well, so there ya go.

4:18 PM  
Blogger Jo said...

I tend to be the kind of gal that gets along very well with guys. Out of the 46 people in my nursing school class, I'm closest buddies with the one single heterosexual guy. (5 guys total, 2 are gay, 2 are married)
Somehow I always put myself in the position of being that great gal pal. Kind of annoying since I've been single for 4 and 1/2 years.
I wish men could look deeper inside women and not only focus on looks. I tend to find people attractive based on personality....I just wish the guys I've met were the same way.
(sorry I live in a young "single's" city, and the majority of the men here are really shallow and yet, somehow, I get along with them better)

11:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

lori sez:

i wish guys wouldn't let themselves get hurt by so many nasty women. i think 98% of the guys i know, or have known, have been cheated on by a woman they were in a serious relationship with. whenever they start telling me about the woman it seems so obvious to me that she wasn't a good choice for the guy (verbally abusive, mind-game player, drug/alcohol abuser etc) so i just wonder what made the guy think she would suddenly change for him.

this doesn't exactly answer the question.

i wish guys knew that there is a difference between towels one uses for washing dishes and towels one uses for cleaning and dusting.

12:19 AM  
Blogger Mary said...

Lori: I totally know what you mean about guys not seeing 'red flags' and then because of past women, they think everyone is like that.

i agree 100% on the towel thing too.

11:36 AM  
Blogger kari said...

i am a girl who has more male friends than female friends.
i am a daddy's girl, i'll openly admit.

what do i wish men know about women that i wish men did?

as i am self-conscious, i think (speaking for myself) that women liked to be told nice things. i'm not talking about senseless flattery that is well-intended but comes out sounding rehearsed. i just mean something simple but honest. something that reminds a girl that she is not being taken for granted.

like a simple pat on the arm. a kiss on the neck. a boob grab, you get the idea.

10:22 PM  
Blogger kari said...

mary -- did you come up with the test for echo logo? and if so, did you create it in a program (illustrator or PS) or is it a font?

10:23 PM  
Blogger ungeziefer said...

another thing boys ought to know: if a girl has a piece of food somewhere on her body, it is that girl's intention to have the boy remove it with his mouth. not flick it off.

i'm just sayin'.

10:46 PM  
Blogger goldennib said...

ungeziefer - Is that a theory you put into practice often? Get punched alot?

6:03 PM  
Blogger Mary said...

Kari - it is a font. I made it in illustrator.

3:21 PM  

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